Magnolia Jane Salon

An AVEDA & Organic Pure Care salon located in the heart of downtown New Bern

Self Care!

One of my favorite quotes is, "An empty lantern provides no light. Self-care is the fuel that allows it to shine vibrantly, lighting the way for others”. Self-care is not selfish. Repeat that to yourself: Self-care is not selfish. Write it on your bathroom mirror. 

Do you care? Do you Self -care?

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New routines, early mornings, busy schedules, sports practices,…it’s easy to feel like you might be going slightly crazy this time of year. Today's cooler temperatures were a reminder that we are now 1 month away from fall and the lazy dog days of summer are quickly fleeting and back-to-school is in full swing. Maybe you don't have little ones or your little ones have left the nest; this time of year seems a little more busy for everyone all around. Perhaps you're still recovering from a summer full of visitors, settling back in from a road trip or adventure to a new or old favorite place or just wrapped up a summer project. 

I don't have children myself but do have great admiration for all of the moms, dads and caregivers who juggle their own life and calendar along with their kiddo's. This time of year you may feel like your car is a taxi and your home has a revolving door of coming and going to different activities. Maybe you’re trying to relax your mind from a summer on the go, or you could feel a bit lonely after saying goodbye to family or friends visiting. Educators that work tirelessly to provide a safe, happy place for our community’s children to learn and grow. As a daughter of a high school guidance counselor I know that your work never ends when you leave school for the day.

There is no denying I have heard several guests in my chair the past 2 weeks say they are feeling a bit overwhelmed. Many things in life can throw us off balance, make us feel stressed or overwhelmed. It’s easy to put ourselves last and neglect the self-care that is vital to our daily wellbeing. I am guilty of this myself. It’s easy to say we’re too busy, that other things are more important, or even worse to tell ourselves we don’t deserve it. Can you imagine telling someone you care about, “You don’t deserve to feel good”?

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We cannot nurture, support or care for others from a dry well, it’s not possible. If we practice proactive, preventative wellness and replenish ourselves emotionally before our well runs dry, then we are able to give to others from our surplus. We are able to share our abundance from a natural state of strength, and what an amazing gift that is to give our family, friends, pets, students, those struggling and most importantly to ourselves. Not to mention neglecting self-care can also effect your physical & mental health tremendously. 

According to Harvard Medical School, research suggests that chronic stress contributes to high blood pressure, promotes the formation of artery-clogging deposits, and causes brain changes that may contribute to anxiety, depression, and addiction & more preliminary research suggests that chronic stress may also contribute to obesity.

It’s time for you to commit to you. I’m not trying to be like one of those motivational videos that feels unrealistic. As Dr. Leo Marvin once said, “baby steps”. Small practices that you can start right now. That don’t require a membership or a piece of workout equipment or a 20 chapter book. Take out your calendar. Just as you would a doctor’s appointment, work meeting or school function, pick times to schedule self-care. This can be waking up a little earlier to stretch, taking a light walk, sitting down and meditating/praying or just paying attention to your breath (there’s lots of great meditation videos on YouTube), put your phone away and be present when you get home, journal a few things you’re grateful for each day or made you smile, sit outside in the sunshine, take a relaxing bath, laugh out loud, turn on your favorite music and dance. Although these are little things that take little time, we somehow can’t find the time to do them. 

How we can help you.
Treating yourself to well deserved stress-reducing services with us is an excellent way to promote self-care. Our wellness expert, Cyndi, provides life changing services that dive deep into treating physical and mental issues with a holistic, natural approach. One of Cyndi’s practices is acupuncture. For years I have wanted to try acupuncture to treat my anxiety, but my fear of needles to the point where I will pass out getting blood drawn or sometimes even thinking about it kept me from doing it. Cyndi encouraged me to try it, and she talked me through everything, and assured me she would not do anything that made me uncomfortable. I can’t explain her energy into words other than calming, mindful and connecting. 

I decided for my first session to start with 1 needle to see how I handled it. The session started and I said, “I’m really nervous I’m going to freak out when you put the needle in”, to which Cyndi replied, “…it’s in, Laura”. What? How could I not have felt that? I had a tension headache that day and could feel relief between eyes where it builds up. Cyndi offered to do a reiki (energy healing) session while I laid still. My mind has trouble wandering, going off-task and I presumed knowing I had a needle in my face my mind would immediately go somewhere dark and stressful in the silence with my own thoughts.

The complete opposite happened. I could feel the transfer of positive, healing energy. Every positive, happy memory I had of my childhood flashed through my head like a slideshow. I was digging in my sandbox, baking cupcakes with my mom, picking strawberries on Grandaddy’s farm, riding bikes with my dad, dancing in a recital, and I had that feeling all over me, that warm fuzzy feeling when I would get out of the bathtub when I was little and my mom would wrap me in a towel and squeeze me tight. I felt safe and peaceful. A few tears ran down my face and I genuinely smiled. The rest of the day I felt “acu-high”: light, free, with a clear mind and an open heart. I was floating.  It’s a very hard feeling to describe, but it is an amazing feeling. 

The transformation we see with guests entering Cyndi’s space and leaving is incredible. They leave calm and peaceful. It is a pretty awesome thing to witness. 

You deserve to be well, to feel alive and happy in your skin. You deserve the time you NEED. Yes, need, not want. We welcome you to experience the world of wellness with us.  A complimentary wellness consultation is encouraged if you have questions or if you are new to self-care and wellness and want to know more. Cyndi will guide you through every step of the way to insure you are comfortable and on the right track. 

I’m proud of you for taking a few small steps towards taking care of yourself and know that you will stay committed and dedicated to loving yourself. 

Peace to you,